No, self-care isn’t selfish. Here’s ways to make it a priority.

When you have the flu, you rest. You drink fluids and convalesce at home. It’s what’s expected of you to feel better.

When you have depression, you’re told to suck it up. Think positively. Get some fresh air. You receive no sympathy and very little understanding, although I don’t know if sympathy is needed so much as compassion.

I used to be embarrassed about getting massages, but now I will gladly tell you I get one weekly in the name of self-care. It’s restorative and part of the plan to fight my depression and anxiety. It’s just as important, in my opinion, as going to a therapist, which I also do. But back then I already had the nickname “Princess,” given to me by co-workers and friends, so I didn’t mention any of my self-care practices. It all felt decadent, but that’s ridiculous! Nothing about self-care is selfish. It’s a necessity and can benefit everyone.

For me, and others with mental illness, it’s sometimes life saving. When I neglect self-care, it can lead to a depressive episode and suicidal thoughts.

So my treatment plan includes going to therapy, taking my medications correctly, getting my nails done, eating healthy foods, taking showers, brushing my teeth, giving myself a facial and blogging. All are needed for me to feel healthy and happy. It may seem strange that teeth brushing and showering are on the list, but let me tell you, when you’re depressed you can’t summon much strength to do anything.