January 24, 2022

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Dos and Don’ts of Marriage Proposals

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Deciding you want to spend forever with your significant other is a huge, exciting step. Such a big move takes a lot of time and thought to plan out. Based on The Knot’s 2021 Jewelry & Engagement Study, engagement planning is back to pre-pandemic trends with the majority of proposals planned more than a month out. Whether you’re considering an elaborate proposal or something more intimate, there are plenty of tips on what to do and what to avoid doing when asking that life-changing question.

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There are so many ways to personalize your proposal and make it special for both you and your partner. Your relationship is unique, and that should be embraced, not overlooked! Think about going to a location that holds significant meaning, including your song, or emphasizing something that’s exclusive to the two of you.

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With so many proposal videos circulating all over social media, it’s easy to become inspired. While it’s fine to take that inspiration and put your own spin on it, you should stay away from completely recreating something viral you’ve seen on the internet. Chances are, if you’ve seen it, so has your significant other. The last thing you want them to feel during your big moment is insignificant, which is the likely result if you replicate someone else’s milestone.

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Both you and your partner will always remember the day you proposed. If you want to take things up a notch, think about picking a spot that you can revisit in the future. Proposing at a trendy restaurant might hold allure, but if that restaurant is gone one day, so is your chance to go back and bask in the nostalgia. Consider proposing at an outdoor location like a beach or a park so you can return one day for an anniversary or other romantic celebration.

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The ring comes in a box for a reason. It’s secured and safe inside the box you get from the jeweler. While it might seem cute to hide the ring in your loved one’s dessert or tie the ring to your dog’s collar, those ideas are mishaps waiting to happen.

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Not everyone feels comfortable with a public spectacle. If your partner isn’t big on being the center of attention, it’s best to keep your proposal private. On the other hand, if they are someone who appreciates grand gestures, proposing in public might be the way to go. If you’re unsure which type of proposal your loved one would be comfortable with, it’s always safest to keep things intimate, especially since you know they enjoy alone time with you.

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Engagements are exciting, and the thought of proposing might give you the urge to share your plans with friends and family. The unfortunate reality is that not everyone is good at keeping secrets, so try to avoid oversharing because it could spoil the surprise.

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When you’re planning your proposal, don’t forget to come up with a solid cover. Think of things that your future spouse would be excited to do or something they would be sure to participate in, like meeting family or friends for dinner or attending a party as your date. You might even be able to involve a trusted person to help throw your partner off. An unexpected proposal is always thrilling.



Are you thinking about proposing on a weeknight to catch your partner off guard? Don’t overlook what the timing of your proposal might mean. If your significant other is meeting you for dinner right after work, they might be exhausted and craving a change of clothes. If they hit the gym right before your special plans, chances are they would prefer a shower before your life-changing moment. Try your best to keep them in the loop just enough without giving away what’s to come.

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You don’t have to hire a professional photographer to capture your proposal, although that move is definitely becoming more common. Whether you commit to a professional or you rely on a trusted accomplice to snap some shots with their phone, having pictures of your proposal will give you and your beloved something tangible to remember your special moment.

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Much like outdoor weddings, if you plan on proposing outside, you also need to plan on the weather working against you. While “The Notebook” made kissing in the rain look romantic, a downpour with thunder and lightning during your long walk on the beach could hinder your big plans. Make sure you think of an indoor alternative in case sunny skies are nowhere to be seen.

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You don’t need to have the perfect words and the most meaningful speech your future spouse has ever heard to make them feel your love. You should, however, think about what you want to say to them in that moment and practice it a couple of times. After all, you can’t exactly hold a piece of paper to read from, the ring box, and their hand all at once (not to mention eye contact is essential during your proposal). It’s natural to get nervous before you ask someone to marry you, and you don’t want to fumble over your words or blank out completely.

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This one is a given: Get down on one knee. If you’ve ever watched a proposal and listened to someone’s heartfelt speech as they stand and look their partner lovingly in the eyes, you’ve also probably felt the anticipation of waiting for that exact moment when they reach into their pocket for the ring box and get down on one knee. Your significant other will more than likely know you’re proposing based on your words and the scene you’ve set for them, but once you kneel down, everything becomes real. That gesture is timeless and highly anticipated, so you definitely don’t want to miss the mark.

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So much thought goes into the proposal itself, it’s easy to forget about how you’ll want to relish in your happiness after getting engaged. Factor in some time after your milestone to celebrate together and to share your big news with family and friends.

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Yes, you want to practice what you’re going to say, but you also want your words to be heartfelt. Do not go into your proposal and sound like you’re reading from a teleprompter. Have an idea of what you want to express, but make sure it comes from your heart.

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This one is easier said than done. Hopefully you have confidence going into your proposal and know that your significant other will say yes, so harness that awareness and keep your composure. If you allow yourself to be overcome by nerves, you might sweat profusely, develop a stutter, black out entirely, or do any number of embarrassing things to spoil your moment.

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